The biggest success I had during my coaching career was when Horst came to me. He only came for one session and he had a very distinct idea about how the coaching should go and what he wanted me to work on together with him. He emailed me a long specific list of “to do’s” before.
His dilemma was, that he had been without work for more than over a year. His resume wasn’t the problem. It was excellent and he always got an interview but never landed a job. He had been to hundreds of interviews by the time he came to me. Another really important interview was just coming up. It was his ideal, dream job! He had sought help with many other people, but nothing had worked for him so far.
In the session we had together I didn’t do one single thing from his to do list. I totally ignored it. Instead he got something utterly different from what he had expected. I let him improvise his pitch in only 3 sentences for over an hour.
My approach certainly took him by surprise and right out of his comfort zone of “how things get done”.
When he called me a week later, telling me that he had landed his dream job I was amazed and so happy for him! He incorporated all the quirky things I told him to practice, even though he thought it was weird, like talking to himself in the mirror and telling his mirror image, that he was wonderful and absolutely right for the job! But he did do it. He changed his usual pattern and created a new, more successful one for himself!
The interesting thing is, that I believe he trusted me, because I wasn’t doing, what he had asked me to do, like all the other ones he had worked with before, but instead focused on what I felt he needed right here right now in the moment he was actually with me.
I really believe, that as an artist as well as a coach I need to be able to let go of all of the concepts of how things should be in order to be able to create something meaningful and original. That’s why the principles of improvisation are the core of any of my practices.
When you work and create with me you most probably won’t get what you expected from me, but it’ll never be boring that’s for sure!
When in your life were you able to override one of your old habits and created something new? Did it change something for you or get you something you haven’t had before?
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